Disturbia

I was saddened and shocked to hear about the altercation between Chris Brown and Rhianna. Altercation is what they were calling it on "E!" News when I first heard about it. To me, it's just straight up abuse. I couldn't believe it, and it made my heart sick. I've known and loved people who were victims of domestic violence and it just makes me angry to hear about any man who abuses the body and trust of someone who loves him.

Not having a lot of time to peruse other people's blogs and news sites (what with a baby in the house), I wonder what other Black people's reaction is to this. I know some people are going to excuse it because he is popular. I think he's an amazing dancer, I like some of his songs, and I thought he was a cute, young, sweet seeming guy. But that does not excuse this. His mom was a victim of domestic violence, so you would think he would know better. And don't tell me that she provoked it -- there is no excuse for hitting a woman. Unless she was pointing a gun at him, there is no excuse for him hitting her, and certainly not multiple times. People are like: "reserve judgement until you know all the facts." What other facts do I need? Is someone implying that maybe it wasn't him who hit her? Do we need to go into therapy with him and find out about his deeper motives? Come on! What happened wasn't right. Period. No excuses. Okay, people, think about how you would feel if that was your daughter or sister getting beat up. Think about that.

I'm glad to be married to a beautiful Black man who has never and would never raise his hand to me. I pray that my daughter will find the same, and I pray for those who suffer from domestic violence -- both at the hands of men and women.